sushi

the other day my friend randy and i were eating lunch in a sushi restaurant we enjoy. the tables were close together and sitting next to us was a lady, mid 40s with shoulder-length blonde hair. across the room was a table of highschool girls. though by room placement seemingly unrelated, i came to find out one of the girls was the daughter of the blonde lady. the daughter walked over to her mom.

"mom, i can't find a pair of my abercrombie jean shorts. have you seen them?"
mom asks for a description.
"they are jean cutoffs."
"oh those. yeah, i've seen them. i threw them away when i was doing laundry."
"MOM, those were $50 abercrombie shorts!" (growing louder than was polite in a sushi restaurant)
"and they were way too short for you to be wearing around."
"MOM, how could you do that??!" (in loud, ultra-whiny tone)
"you shouldn't be wearing shorts like that."
"MOM, you owe me $50 for those shorts!"
...
daughter continued to yell at mother for throwing away her shorts, then stomped out of the restaurant with her onlooking friends.

i was a little irritated by the commotion, especially considering the topic. and i questioned what could be at the heart of such a conflict.

about five minutes later, a man walks in to the restaurant and sits with the mom. the mom says, "your daughter was here a few minutes ago. and she yelled at me for throwing her shorts away..." the conversation was short.

the man's phone rang. rather than mute it, he picked it up, and proceeded to talk for several minutes while the mother ate by her lonesome. he eventually hung up. a few words later the mother's phone rang. she picked it up and began conversing while the man ate alone. this continued for about 45 minutes. i'd guess that over the course of their meal, the couple talked for less than 5 minutes total.

all of a sudden, the first scene between mother and daughter made way more sense.

debrief:
i base the following points on my snapshot view. this is just what i think, but may or may not be entirely accurate. just think about it...
1.there was a lack of love/respect between mother and father.
2.father was too busy for mom indicating he is probably too busy for daughter too.
3.lack of love from father causes girl to seek other means of validation.
4.girl resorts to wearing indecent shorts to attract attention from boys, hence validating who she is.
5.mom is too uninvolved in daughter's life to have conversation about shorts.
6.daughter feels disrespected by mother because rather than talk about the issue (this requires a conversation, mind you), mother threw shorts away.